So now its
time to meet your date face to face. You are ready to show up as
Mr.Neat, clean-shaven, shoes polished, with clothes that flatter you
and a dash of cologne - all-in-all excellently well groomed. This is
definitely attractive.
However
there's more to creating an impression and impact than just the looks.
Your personality, behavior and communication all counts. The
same goes for the gals as well.
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Arrive
on time
Guys
Be on time, not too early, not too late. It can be irritating to wait
for someone but if you are too early it may appear you are too eager or
feel too needy.
Leave
15 minutes earlier than you would need to, just in case anything
happens along the way. Please have the courtesy to call ahead, if you
are running late.
Gals
be on time
Don't let the poor guy wait for you worrying about what has happened to
the date. Give yourselves enough time to get ready and leave a little
early and arrive on time (But gals on second thought you people do have
the liberty to be a few minutes late. Not more though!).
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Smile-
Its a great way to start off
One of the most effective things you can do is to smile. A nice genuine
smile makes you more attractive and approachable. You instantly appear
friendly, positive, vibrant and nice. Smiling will also help
you calm those nerves of yours and that of your date.
But
don't smile away throughout the entire date. And by smile we mean a
smile from your heart, a smile of friendliness not a made-up, fake
smile. If you need to, practice in front of a mirror, prior to the
date, with a cheerful spirit (Please don't practice a fake smile in
your hurry).
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Relax
Gals and guys first relax and be yourself. Be confident and comfortable
and it will show through clearly (Of course not over-confident, its a
sure turn off). You are trying and wish to be calm and cool but you
feel incredibly nervous and cannot bring yourselves to be calm and
collected? Then make use of it. Make a joke about how nervous you are
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Be
polite
Be polite and nice to your date and also with others you encounter like
waiters, movie attendants or shopkeepers etc. Nobody
appreciates or likes a jerk.
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Create
the mood
Feel comfortable and make your date feel comfortable. Your date will
like you for that.
Feel
romantic and let your thought waves create the romantic atmosphere be
it at a candle lit restaurant or on a beach cycling
together.
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Body
language
Remember to pay some attention to your body language.
Some
pointers: Make good eye contact. This shows you are confident and you
are paying attention. Maintain your posture. Don't slump. Be relaxed.
Keep your nervousness away.
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Keep
in mind
Guys don't act immature. Then the gals may simply just want you for
friends only.
Gals
don't be over-powering and intimidating. The guys generally like to see
a tinge of vulnerability at least.
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The
communication
Now's time for the sharing session or heart-to-heart talk.
Do
keep in mind you may find it interesting to talk about yourselves but
your date may also be equally interested to talk about themselves. You
are not giving a lecture. So avoid talking all the way.
Give
the other person an opportunity to speak. This way both of you gets to
know each other better and when both of you participate its enjoyable
and interesting to both. This is the way to keep it going.
Laugh
at their jokes. Talk about their interests also, while sharing yours.
Ask them questions.
Also
don't keep talking just to fill in the silences. Simply accept the
silences as a passing lull in the communication.
Watch
your words. Once out there you cannot take it back. This doesn't mean
you have to keep looking out for your words to the extent you cant
properly communicate. Simply communicate and express your opinions
freely and as you feel appropriate but remember to be considerate and
thoughtful. That's all.
Avoid
topics that can be subjective. Opinions vary greatly on topics like
politics, current events, religion, men v/s women etc. If you would
like a second date, starting an argument on your very first date is not
a sensible option. So leave such topics for later dates.
Have
interesting and meaningful conversations about things that count
towards understanding each other better.
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End
on a good note at the right time
Don't drag on an interesting date until it turns to get boring or
annoying. If you like each other don't also abruptly end it. Just let
your intuitive feeling guide you. Just have the space and thought to
allow yourselves to hear your intuitive suggestion while you are
immersed in the date.
End on a positive and humorous note. When its time to leave
Don't
just ask for another date straight up. You may want to mention you had
a wonderful time and say, Feel free to call me or if you would like to
go out again just let me know
If
you want their contact details, offer yours first, Here's my contact
details. If you would like it would be nice to have yours as well. If
your date is not comfortable about giving you their details, then don't
press on. That may impress your date and increase their confidence in
you.
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Good Luck!
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